Make that Change
Remember the song, Man In the Mirror, by Michael Jackson?
I'm starting with the man in the mirror.
I'm asking him to change his ways.
And no message could have been any clearer-
If you wanna make a better place, take a look at yourself and make that change.
Perfect words for what I want to say to everyone. If you're unhappy in your life, don't blame everyone else and expect them to change before you can be happy with your life. If you want to see change, start with yourself. Look in the mirror and ask what can You do? Where can you start?
Asking yourself to change your ways can be many things. Let's look at character a minute. What are you known for? Bad attitude? Moody? Judgmental? Critical? Aloof? Or are you known for being nice, giving, kind, thoughtful, patient? Or are you a combination of both? Most of us are a combination of both, leaning toward one side. Which one are you? Be honest. Do you really want change in your life? Do you like how you look? Have you let yourself go? What excuse have you created for yourself to keep from trying or working on you? Has Life thrown you a curve? Are you waiting for that magic pill, or for that morning you just wake up and all of a sudden your problems are solved? Hmmm, let me know when that happens. We'll write books about it. No, just kidding. What I'm saying is that it doesn't happen that way.
Life does hit us hard sometimes. We are let down, let go, abandoned, disillusioned, hurt and we are left to cope with it the best we can. But sometimes, we just give up. It's too hard. It's painful. You just don't want to hurt anymore. It can't be all you. It has to be someone else, too, right?
Well, yes and no. You have to make the decision for change. You have to do it regardless of who else is involved in the situation. You have to look at yourself and see what you can do to help yourself.
What does this mean, exactly? It means you have to look at yourself and ask some hard questions. Simple, but hard because it means being honest with who you really are. Just because you call yourself a Christian does not mean you are a nice person. You may be as mean as a snake, not easy to get along with, short-tempered, rude... you see what saying. So, did you have any part in where you are in your life right now? Honestly? What choices did you make to bring you where you are? Who did you hurt or betray on your path? Were you once a mean person, hurt people, got saved, never really changed and now you are left with no friends? Do you wonder why? Have you been a good friend?
Are you in a rut in your marriage and you want your spouse to change? Look at yourself. Are you separated, divorced, waiting on God to fix it and you see nothing changing? Wonder why?Do you take any responsibility at all or blame others for your unhappiness? Are your kids causing you grief and no one gets along at home and you wonder why?
We have the power to change our life. We can't change others but we can start with our self and God is right there to help us. He will lead us to what we need to do and this will spill over into other areas in our life, which brings more change.
So start by looking in the mirror and ask yourself to change. Don't expect others to start. Don't wait for them to make the changes you need for yourself. For you, it may start with not saying another negative thing to or about anyone. Start there and see where God leads you.