TAMARA BERNADETTE

By: Tamara | January 17, 2018



Prepare for Change



Why would you have to prepare for change? Can't you just jump into it? Well, for some that may be the case. But for others, myself included, it's a process we need to prepare our mind for. What that means is you have to prepare for what you must do and know that once you are ready you can move forward. It is trusting what you cannot see and don't understand. Chances are it won't make sense at the time because it's a faith journey, period. What you are doing is saying yes to change. Trusting where God is leading you, knowing he's doing what he must for your own good.

God meets you where you are. You don't have to be perfect. We will never be perfect so why try. You are who you are, where you are rig...

By: Tamara | January 12, 2018

Make that Change



Remember the song, Man In the Mirror, by Michael Jackson?

I'm starting with the man in the mirror.

I'm asking him to change his ways.

And no message could have been any clearer-

If you wanna make a better place, take a look at yourself and make that change.



Perfect words for what I want to say to everyone. If you're unhappy in your life, don't blame everyone else and expect them to change before you can be happy with your life. If you want to see change, start with yourself. Look in the mirror and ask what can You do? Where can you start?

Asking yourself to change your ways can be many things. Let's look at character a minute. What are you known for? Bad attitude? Moody? Judgmental? Critical? Aloof? Or are you known...

By: Tamara | January 03, 2018

This is the year! 2018, the year I have been waiting for, the year I have working toward. I have a lot I want to share about the process of changing. It’s much more than we think. And it’s different for everyone. Some go through and need more, but all have areas that could be better especially if you find yourself in the wilderness stage. It’s a lonely time and although it may feel like nothing is happening, believe me, A Lot is going on that you cannot see.
But what do you do in that stage? Give up? Many people do. If you are alone, divorced, empty nester- you most likely feel what’s the point. Why bother. Nobody is around to share your life with so what’s the point? You have given up and have no real social life. Maybe you go to work and ...

By: Tamara | November 06, 2017


What’s Wrong With My Life?


It’s a mess. Life as you knew it is out of control. You and your spouse aren’t getting along as you used to. The kids aren’t behaving as they used to. People at work are getting on your last nerve. People at the grocery store move like they have nowhere else to go. Your health is sluggish, your friends don’t call you anymore, your dreams of what you wanted to be have faded and nothing is as it used to be. You stopped taking care of yourself, you always look undone or haggard. How did this happen?

Life has gotten so frustrating that you stopped going to church, stopped spending time with God and now you’re just trying to make it through the day without crying. You think you might want a break, maybe a divorce, or ma...

By: Tamara | October 31, 2017

What is girl changed? Did you look at this name, title and wondered, what is that? What does that mean? Well, if you didn’t read my welcome page or about me page, then I’ll explain.

Girl Changed came about from having gone through everything I went through, the dark days, the long seasons of being what I refer to as the “wilderness years” and coming out a completely different person. A new girl. New. Changed, in every way.

There was a lot of pain, isolation, old, forgotten memories that surfaced-not for torture, but for growth. You have to face yourself to be able to move on and be a better you. I wanted change in my life. But I didn’t think it was me who had to changed. But, I found out the hard way that it was me who had to change fir...